How to Approach a Potential Boyfriend

A guided visualization into the minds of Men!

A couple of years ago I did a retail stint at Macy’s, in the fragrance department!

As you can imagine, the fragrance department receives all sorts of customers, from the lonely business executive lady searching for a specific perfume that attracts men, to men, some merely curious, some pretending to be curious whilst checking you out, and some outwardly very bold – demanding for my contact details before even revealing their names!

You see, to attract men, or the type of man you want to be seen with in public for the longest of days, you have to be super subtle, you don’t want to come off as too eager, needy, bold or, let’s face it, a slut!

Men tend to be skittish in the dating department, more like a gazelle at a watering hole in the middle of an open savanna! If you appear too bold, you might just scare him away, never to return or be seen in the same city again!

When you’re looking for a date, it’s imperative to be aware of your surroundings because, you just never know who you might bump into or, better yet, who might be studying and analyzing your every move before they gain the courage to approach and start yapping away!

Once you’re aware of your surroundings and who might be sizing you up, you’re then able to position yourself in such a way that he takes notice of you.

In case you’re wondering how this can be done, trust me, it’s not that difficult.

For instance, let’s assume you see a man you fancy standing idly in a courtyard or looking lost, you simply walk up, look him in the eye, smile and tell him you like the shirt he’s wearing, or ask for the time, or smile, anything simple… remember ladies – dumb it down!

Once you’ve done this, keep moving ladies, no rubber-necking… go to the ladies or something, give him food for pause and, if he’s bitten the lure, he’ll approach you the moment you re-appear.

Men don’t need much to pique their interest where ladies are concerned. If you’re his type, he’ll come running alright, or hover around to gather enough intel to come back another time when he’s mastered enough courage.

Word of warning though. You don’t want to appear too eager, too interested, and too much into him. When this happens, you give him too much power, power to manipulate you, to pay less attention to you and power to treat you with less respect than you deserve. When you hold out against any guy for any length of time – holding out without emphatically saying NO, you open yourself up to be irresistible to men, any man for that matter.