Why Red Flags Feel Like Home for Some Partners

Understanding the Complex Dynamics of Red Flag Attractions

Shedding Light on Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

In the realm of relationships, it’s not uncommon for some individuals to find themselves repeatedly drawn to partners who exhibit red flags. Despite the warning signs, these individuals may feel a strange sense of familiarity and comfort in these unhealthy dynamics. This phenomenon raises the question: why do red flags sometimes feel like home for certain partners? In this article, we will delve into the complex dynamics that contribute to this pattern and shed light on the underlying reasons.

1. Familiarity from Childhood

One key factor behind the attraction to red flags is the familiarity that stems from childhood experiences. If an individual grew up in an environment where dysfunction, manipulation, or unhealthy dynamics were prevalent, they may subconsciously gravitate towards partners who replicate these patterns. These behaviors may feel familiar and oddly comfortable, despite their detrimental effects.

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2. Repetition Compulsion

Repetition compulsion is a psychological phenomenon in which individuals unconsciously seek to repeat familiar experiences, even if they are negative or harmful. This compulsion arises from the belief that by reliving these experiences, they can somehow resolve past traumas or gain a sense of control over them. As a result, they are drawn to partners who exhibit similar red flags as those encountered in their past.

3. Low Self-Worth and Codependency

Individuals with low self-worth or a tendency towards codependency may find themselves attracted to partners who display red flags. They may believe they don’t deserve better or that they can “fix” their partner’s issues, hoping to prove their worth through these relationships. The familiarity of red flags may reinforce their belief system and perpetuate the cycle.

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4. Emotional Unavailability

Some individuals are drawn to partners who are emotionally unavailable or prone to pushing them away. This pattern may be linked to unresolved attachment issues or a fear of intimacy. The push-pull dynamic that arises from red flag behaviors creates a sense of emotional intensity and unpredictability, which can be mistakenly equated with passion or love.

5. Validation and Acceptance

Partners who display red flags may offer intermittent validation and acceptance, keeping the individual hooked in the relationship. The moments of kindness, love bombing, or validation can create a powerful emotional bond and reinforce the belief that the relationship has the potential to change or improve.

Breaking the Pattern and Seeking Healthy Relationships

  1. Self-Reflection and Awareness: Take time to reflect on your relationship patterns and the red flags you’ve encountered in the past. Cultivate self-awareness to recognize the underlying reasons behind your attractions.
  2. Therapy and Support: Consider seeking therapy or support groups to address unresolved traumas, low self-worth, or codependency issues. Professional guidance can help you break destructive patterns and develop healthier relationship dynamics.
  3. Establish Boundaries: Learn to set clear boundaries and prioritize your well-being. Understand your needs, values, and non-negotiables in a relationship. Communicate these boundaries to potential partners and be willing to walk away if they are not respected.
  4. Cultivate Self-Love and Self-Worth: Work on developing a strong sense of self-love and self-worth. Engage in self-care activities, practice positive affirmations, and surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and validate you.
  5. Seek Healthy Partnerships: When embarking on new relationships, be mindful of red flags and prioritize healthy dynamics. Take your time getting to know potential partners, observe their actions, and trust your instincts. Choose partners who consistently show respect, communication, and emotional availability

I signed up to flirt.com last week after getting a number of email contacts from girls in my neighborhood. A week later and they now have seemed to disappear. I can’t find their profiles and not one replied to my message after they sent me one first. This seems really strange. If you reach out to someone you think they would be interested enough to reply back. I hope this is just a fluke. I plan on spending some time on the site tonight to see if I can find any more women I can contact. John from the USA
I never had any luck on flirt, fling or any of the other so called adult dating sites. All I find on them are cam girls just wanting me to visit their own site and pay them money. I don’t know if there is a true dating site for hooking up any more. Even POF is getting out the game. How did it go for you John I find Fling to be okay. It is no better and no worse than others like AFF. You got your scammers and you got some real chicks on the site. As with all dating sites, even Facebook now days, if you are looking for a relationship you need to be able to spot the fakes. I haven’t met one real girl on any of these type of hookup sites. I get one word replies to emails and the few times I chatting with a girl all she wanted me to do was visit her own site were I assume I need to pay for something.I tried out Flirt and nothing good came from it. I talked to a number of women but when push came to shove no one ended up going out with me. All they did was want to talk. A few sent me photo’s while we were texting but that is not much especially when I am paying good money every month for the privilege of speaking to other Flirt members. I am in my thirties and I was talking to women in the same age bracket. Most were divorced so I am not sure what the issue is. Does anyone know how to succeed on this site? I got on Flirt and paid their $2.97 for the three day trial. I removed my account a day before my trial ended cause alls the site is is a hub for women to try and get you on skype and from there they either want you to go to their website to cam or they try to get your facebook info so they x an try and blackmail you with whatever info they can get their hands on. Flirt (Together Network) absolutely has thee worst customer service I have ever came across. Then to make the whole experience worse they charged my card for $29.99 even after I removed my account and refuse to refund. Which isn’t as bad as the hoops you literally have to jump through to get your account removed. They have you email the administrator who does not email you back with a confirmation number to email so you have to deal with someone from India to get your email by calling the 212#. Then you call back. Overall it took 3 days of bs and my account still hasn’t been completely removed. Beware the site is just a scam. You will receive numerous messages from different usernames asking to go to the same skype username. Also yahoo IM has been plagued with the same thing from these people.Joined Flirtlocal a week ago had .messages till I paid for the membership know can’t get a respond. Can’t even log into the site with .y email or username and password. Everything was fine till they got my $29,95 membership payment..now I can’t even get on there to unsubscribe to the krapt. What can I do???? Thanks mack Exclamation Yes flirt is another scam site. All of the women on there have fake profiles and fake addresses. Almost every woman I talked to was in ghana and wanted me to send them money for there visa and a plane ticket. Well do not even sign up for their censored. I will save yiu the time. FILLED WIYH SCAMMERS. Yes it is a huge scam.. Many profiles are not real. They make it hard to cancel and I called them to cancel and the customer service rep was able to tell me my own password. Being a developer, passwords stored and visible in plain text is a huge annoyance of mine.All my contacts disappeared, shortly after I paid “Flirt” a membership fee. When I took “Flirt” to task, regarding this, they told me that I was not using the site correctly. A couple of weeks after I quit the site, Flirt stole £40 out of my bank account. This they are refusing to refund. Marvellous! 100% a total scam somebody needs to go on Facebook and put this site on blast. Crooks and thief of service , notify the BBB and attorney generals office. Pass the word down this site all the profiles are fake. This site is just like the rest fake. Obviously once you’ve paid for any of their options, they mysteriously disappear never to be heard from again. I guess it must be a new way for legal fraud and blatant robbery. Can anyone help get these fraudulant people to pay restitution for these acts or even have them charged for outright theft.Dudes, never pay just use the free part if you want to see naked girls or videos if that’s what u want. But look this is a legal way for them to take your money, It is a scam run by the Russian mafia based in whatever country has the least laws. They make millions on it and it’s easy cash. If you want to meet crazy women go in Craigslist and just post on the adult section. I am sure you will have better luck and the worst is you just waste your time not money.

I signed up to flirt.com last week after getting a number of email contacts from girls in my neighborhood. A week later and they now have seemed to disappear. I can’t find their profiles and not one replied to my message after they sent me one first. This seems really strange. If you reach out to someone you think they would be interested enough to reply back. I hope this is just a fluke. I plan on spending some time on the site tonight to see if I can find any more women I can contact. John from the USA
I never had any luck on flirt, fling or any of the other so called adult dating sites. All I find on them are cam girls just wanting me to visit their own site and pay them money. I don’t know if there is a true dating site for hooking up any more. Even POF is getting out the game. How did it go for you John I find Fling to be okay. It is no better and no worse than others like AFF. You got your scammers and you got some real chicks on the site. As with all dating sites, even Facebook now days, if you are looking for a relationship you need to be able to spot the fakes. I haven’t met one real girl on any of these type of hookup sites. I get one word replies to emails and the few times I chatting with a girl all she wanted me to do was visit her own site were I assume I need to pay for something.I tried out Flirt and nothing good came from it. I talked to a number of women but when push came to shove no one ended up going out with me. All they did was want to talk. A few sent me photo’s while we were texting but that is not much especially when I am paying good money every month for the privilege of speaking to other Flirt members. I am in my thirties and I was talking to women in the same age bracket. Most were divorced so I am not sure what the issue is. Does anyone know how to succeed on this site? I got on Flirt and paid their $2.97 for the three day trial. I removed my account a day before my trial ended cause alls the site is is a hub for women to try and get you on skype and from there they either want you to go to their website to cam or they try to get your facebook info so they x an try and blackmail you with whatever info they can get their hands on. Flirt (Together Network) absolutely has thee worst customer service I have ever came across. Then to make the whole experience worse they charged my card for $29.99 even after I removed my account and refuse to refund. Which isn’t as bad as the hoops you literally have to jump through to get your account removed. They have you email the administrator who does not email you back with a confirmation number to email so you have to deal with someone from India to get your email by calling the 212#. Then you call back. Overall it took 3 days of bs and my account still hasn’t been completely removed. Beware the site is just a scam. You will receive numerous messages from different usernames asking to go to the same skype username. Also yahoo IM has been plagued with the same thing from these people.Joined Flirtlocal a week ago had .messages till I paid for the membership know can’t get a respond. Can’t even log into the site with .y email or username and password. Everything was fine till they got my $29,95 membership payment..now I can’t even get on there to unsubscribe to the krapt. What can I do???? Thanks mack Exclamation Yes flirt is another scam site. All of the women on there have fake profiles and fake addresses. Almost every woman I talked to was in ghana and wanted me to send them money for there visa and a plane ticket. Well do not even sign up for their censored. I will save yiu the time. FILLED WIYH SCAMMERS. Yes it is a huge scam.. Many profiles are not real. They make it hard to cancel and I called them to cancel and the customer service rep was able to tell me my own password. Being a developer, passwords stored and visible in plain text is a huge annoyance of mine.All my contacts disappeared, shortly after I paid “Flirt” a membership fee. When I took “Flirt” to task, regarding this, they told me that I was not using the site correctly. A couple of weeks after I quit the site, Flirt stole £40 out of my bank account. This they are refusing to refund. Marvellous! 100% a total scam somebody needs to go on Facebook and put this site on blast. Crooks and thief of service , notify the BBB and attorney generals office. Pass the word down this site all the profiles are fake. This site is just like the rest fake. Obviously once you’ve paid for any of their options, they mysteriously disappear never to be heard from again. I guess it must be a new way for legal fraud and blatant robbery. Can anyone help get these fraudulant people to pay restitution for these acts or even have them charged for outright theft.Dudes, never pay just use the free part if you want to see naked girls or videos if that’s what u want. But look this is a legal way for them to take your money, It is a scam run by the Russian mafia based in whatever country has the least laws. They make millions on it and it’s easy cash. If you want to meet crazy women go in Craigslist and just post on the adult section. I am sure you will have better luck and the worst is you just waste your time not money.

Who really goes to a hookup site for porn or chat or cam girls? That censored is free all over the internet.Which is where all our info and pics are now.The creeps are the ones running these totally fake sites and posting fake reviews.Hidden charges fake profiles. I don’t think anyone wants that??? How does that qualify as a hookup site? And why are so many already an app in my phone when they are totally a scam? Android BS? Some of us are not married but have many reasons to be discreet!Since that’s been blown find me a nice small cute lady between Balt. and Fred. for a fwb and she can text me at-(all others will be infringing on my privacy rights-as per my lawyer)-
fo fo th ni fine tw on si th se Lawyers from a large nationwide ferm tired of complaints from his upscale clients so beware!!!!!!!!! I’m writing from the UK and I have noticed a pattern. First, when you ask the woman about herself she does not answer the actual question. Try getting her name for example. Then I have noticed that they ask what I think of the site/ And lastly, as a Brit, they all reply using US spellings (we spell humor as humour, for example). lastly, the conversation ends abruptly after about 10 minutes or so. No I’m sorry to say this is a big con. of course its a scam i went on there and half the females aint who they make themselves out to be. probably males being eggs or a computer that answers back what you wana here it was a waist of money and time and i recomend dont waste your money Mr. Green i went on that date web site flirt last week , and i was talking to like 5 to 6 women on there at one time . but when you ask the too exchange phone numbers , they don’t respond back to you . so i think too al males if you read this don’t waste your time on this site flirt .and if you cancell out onthet site you don’t get your money back th throw you into this porn dating site where its so bad . but good luck if you do spend your hard earn cash … these women are most likely company employes as i noticed a similar pattern ,they jerk you around with one line replies and you just cant get a straight answer about some kind of meeting in the future ….Flirt.com is 200% fake site. Don’t get paid and don’t get cheated. When you find someone or some many in your place or wherever you are interested and if you message them as a guest immediately you will be receiving response from all of them. Immediately you would click on the message to read it, you will be redirected to payment page. In curiosity to read the replies from most of all of them whom you have messaged, you would pay seeing the quote, “if you are not satisfied, your amount would be refunded”. This is the trap. Once you made payment and check all the messages you had received, it will look similar with different phrases or words to upload your picture. You would upload it too. That’s all the response messages you would have received. For all your actions, you would get like response only from the members who you are reaching. Rarely to know what does it meany video calling if you click, no one will respond. Once it gets disconnected automatically reaching maximum time, immediately you would get response message from the member who you have called, again it means similar with different words and phrases like ” No cam. Damn Cam Not working. Let’s chat in SMS”. By seeing this if you reply for the message and expect reply, again message and again expect reply, you are totally wasting your time here. Money already you have wasted when you opted for full membership. After seeing and experiencing all these, if you raise a refund request from one of the site page, you never get reply. If you call customer care, they will clearly tell you that only when there’s a technical issue that they will refund the amount. Not for all other reasons and if you ask question like, in the payment page, you have mentioned as “if you are not satisfied, your amount would be refunded” they’ll reply it’s only for technical issues. But they will offer you another deal. The deal is that your membership will be transferred to their another dating site named benaughty.com. It’s 200% copy of flirt.com including registered members only with different theme and color. Again everything is as same as flirt.com including the member responses. They are cheating us. Don’t believe in them. Ok – so I’m am now being asked by several for my phone number. I got there’s and we stated chatting. They are then asking for me to go to A verification site that’s asking for my card info. I don’t understand how my credit card would prove I’m safe of not – the wont meet for coffee or a drink in a public place like most folks. The ones that are responding are young and hot – I’m 62 – I keep myself in shape but I’m also a realist and know it has to be a scam. Anyone else having to go through their verification process (1 actually asked me to send 350 thru western union and that I would get it back after the process was done – crazy censored ). I joined yesterday and after reading all of this I’m canceling today – or gonna try to snd will call my credit card company and tell them not to allow the card to be charged from these people.the request for an age verification is PROOF theyre criminals ,dont ever give your CC details to an age site as they will blast it over the limit… u cant proove your age by CC details its all c r a p yes I think it is a scam going to do same and stop money they say if you don’t get security check you will get a 300 fine trouble is I kept asking for the stuff to be sent when I asked hey kept for a phone number they kept saying it was busy I cant even find a phone number to call dose anyone know the number for the companyAlan,there is no security check. It’s all part of the scam,aided and abetted I might add by the site. If you report these fake ID clearance scams to the site, their response it that it is all above board. What’s needed is for all those that have had funds taken from their bank accounts without their consent to come forward and initiate a class action for theft and fraud. Is a scam site. if you right click a picture, most of the time that same picture is on other sites not even related to dating. Ever notice to all the wo man want to ask so many questions and just want to chat. They only have one picture, no information and let me tell you, i live in a small city, very small. if these woman lived here as their profile says, i would have run into them already. POF woman, i see them around town. not these women. any site that uses an authentication site using your CC is deifinately a scam .. only criminals use authentication websites to get your CC details which they will then hammer to death ,dont input any CC details on other sites as it dont even proove a thing.. only that your stupid to fall for that krap Actually, only a few hours use for me.
Flirt.com is a crappy, scam site only. I regret not doing investigations before trying it, I just simply took the first dating app apparing on the IPhone App Store. What a shame!!! Now I will leave the site and block this credit card.
Be smart, stay away!! Flirt.com has a 0 out of 10 in score from me. Spread the new Google ;-)I happened to see one woman on flirt that I had dated on plenty of fish.On flirt she was aged 41 where in actual of fact she was 70 ! The distance was put as 2.4 miles away from me whereas I know her to be fifty miles because I have been to her home…I think they steal the photos from other dating sites.. the messages received are automatic and none of them really exist or know they are on it..
I had 70 messages with no photo and no description !! on P O F I get very little response.
Do they really think we are that stupid?I also cannot remove my account as they have changed my mail address so I can’t receive the code. I am furious Yes and no. There are real women on there, but look for profiles that don’t have nudity. Never give out your personal number or home address. This is internet security 101. If you get to the point that you actually feel like you know each other, ask yourself, where do they live. What’s their job. what did they do last week for fun? What worries them the most. If you can answer these questions without having to ask at this point, then it might be okay. Just fyi, if they ask you to verify your e-mail through a link they send you after you give out your number, it will ask for credit card info. This is a scam. Anyone that says “please verify who you say you are” is a man in another country trying to get you to sign up to a cam site with pre-recorded video. I mean maybe they’re real right? $500 just happens to be missing from my bank account right now, and I haven’t heard from the girl, but that doesn’t mean she’s not who she says she is? Just walk away. Just walk away. The best thing to do is not say anything. the site’s free trial is a scam to charge you a full month’s subscription though. It takes 3 days to process your cancellation. Cancel within 5 minutes if you did fall for it. if you did, they will pitch you 3 or more “alternative” sites. Just say, No, no, no. Thank you Good bye. You’ll probably still be charged, but this is your best shot.They can’t do anything. If you get charged, you call your credit card company and say your card was stolen. get a new card. The timer in the e-mail is fake. It just counts down and resets every time you open and close the e-mail.

Flirt.com is a scam I haven’t hook up once or got one number from the woman I have chatted with don’t join I signed up for the three-day trail for 2.99 and they charged me 24.99 for a one month membership don’t sign up with this site it is a scam. This is the worst site I have ever been on
Like some others I signed up for 3 days for $3.99 and got charged the $24,99 as well
The responses seem automated but my guess is they are paying some poor women (or men) is a third world country to reply.
The conversations and responses are innane and if you try to ask anything outside of the square you get even more stupid responses!!!
AVOID AT ALL COSTS^^^ this is a common trick to rip you ,,many sites do the same so read the small print before handing over your CC details as your dealing with ruthless criminals in may cases …on fling dot com they had a pay by phone for a 3 day trial .good thing as it was a con … Flirt and all the other related sites are 95% scam. The only legitimate aspect is the local women that are on there and they probably do not total 10% of the total profiles. If you have time to sort through all of the phoney stuff, you might be able to meet a great lady. I do believe that many of the ladies like it because they can do it part time, from their homes, be a little naughty and maybe the pay is pretty good but several told me that they also have to put up with a lot of crap and rudeness. If the site was legit, nicer guys would join and the whole picture would be better for everyone. The problems as so many have stated, is that they send you false, misleading messages, making you think your having a lot of contacts and then offer you a special 3-day deal, and often at the same time they go ahead and take a full fee for the month. And, you never have any chance of getting any of your money back because they office places in the world where you could never reach them, probably personally or definately, legally. But there is more, a lot more, once you are on for the 3-day trial, you start getting hits from all over wanting to “chat” and what they want you to do is get all hot and bothered, join their cam sites with your credit card, and they’ve really got you. The cam idea was never appealing to me at all so I avoided that trap. That is probably their biggest money maker. They also have other sceams where they want you to get “verified” as legit before they will consider meeting you and of course, this will require that good “ole” credit card again. Also, I’d guess that 75% plus of all the profiles are either completely phoney or someone completely out of your area or even a lot out of country. Apparently they also sell your email around because you will start getting all kinds of solicitations from all over the world, for sex and probably about anything else you can think of. It’s a shame because it might be a good deal for the woman but I think if they knew all the other things that were going on they may choose to find a better, more legitimate place to meet guys. There are many parts that I don’t know about especially if and how much the woman get paid. I can only say, that I did meet some woman that really seemed nice but never dated anyone. I lost very little because I never let there be enough in my credit card balance where they could take extra dollars with out approval, so be careful. I’ve often noticed how so many people (and organizations) find it so eazy to run scam operations where it would not take that much more to be legitimate. I guess they get their thrills out of scaming people. Good luck.Yep, Total Scam. tried to pay a couple of times with credit card and was prompted to call their phone line. first thing they asked was for my card number which was a bit suspect.
Next day my credit card company texted me about the payment on my card so i called them to find that flirt had taken the payment but not upgraded the account to full access.
I was lucky my bank were on the ball and obviously aware of this as a scam site.
Flirt hook you in by sending automatic emails, winks and flirts from females, real or not I can’t say, just to get you to sign up.
If you do get through the process you will probably find the girl never sent you the contact in the first place and is not interested in your profile at all.
Lucky escape for me. I’m off to the pub now to spend my membership money on beer. At least I will get knocked back by a real person. I can take that.
Jon It’s a scam spent a lot of money to try to join a security I D clearance site and all that happened was more charges on my card and no security clearance.had to cancel my card and dispute all charges. Beware don’t get fooled!! It’s a scam you can get plenty of tail on Match.com
EHarmony is very hard to navigate.
most all other sites are scams.
Always use a prepaid credit card on the internet when buying anything and everything.
Only put enough money on the gift card for the minimum amount if you are not sure of the site. Let them beg for your money, do not give them your real credit card or bank info. i would not waste any more time or money on this site. ? full of pretend singles and lonelily females. ? only asking you to subscribe to there webcam sites. its a scam. I joined this site because it said you could meet women in your area. This site is just more censored. Another scam! I live in Denver and most of the women that contacted me said they lived in ft. Logan Colo. There is no ft. Logan Colo !!! It’s a censored site don’t waste your money!I spent about $10 in just over a week and struggled with this site. You get what you pay for I guess. Only one profile seemed genuine, the rest were fake as the responses seemed so odd (single word responses, never answering your questions, quick to say goodbye if you prod them for a real response). The app sucks. The broadcast flirts suck (so you can’t tell if it’s a private message or a broadcast). Even the searches suck (results include people outside the age range). Don’t bother with this site. A few words of caution: the interest from others is high in the first hour you join then falls away (bots?), the broadcast flirts come across as “naughty” but that’s as far as it goes (never got into an adult chat) and finally, although it may come across as a “hook up” site – it’s not. Go elsewhere if that’s what you’re after Smile Angry I would love to see a dating site that your profile will be deleted if you don’t answer or reply to a a text from a customer looking for a date, then your profile will be deleted immediately this I’d like to see because I am tired of dating sites I have never gotten one date not one I repeat not one date off of dating sites the only dates that I have gotten it off of Craigslist so I think all the dating sites are scams don’t waste your money on them they’re there to take your money and give you nothing. I have been at these dating sites just two and a half years looking for a date and like I said the only day that I have gotten was off of Craigslist and nothing zero off of dating sites and I have tried them all. I’m glad I looked. I had my doubts but it “looked” like there was a local female, and she was older so it was plausible she just needed some dick. As soon as I read this site I removed emails from them. For people looking for tail, Fling and Craigslist have gotten me the most. Yes, you have to pay for Fling. Use a prepaid CC, twice my number has been stolen and fraudulent charges made, after renewing with them. But the site works. With any women looking for dick, they are there for a day, then they are gone. You have to get to them when they are ready to go. But Fling has a very high volume of women coming through, because it’s free for them, and because of where they advertise. Personally, all sites want money for meeting fake girls. It’s like expecting people to be honest, put in a fake pair of boobs, and change the idea you’ve got a dick. They’re not really existing at all, but you paid to see that ass on a picture. You don’t have one in your lap, I thought people were smarter than to just believe they should pay to meet people over the internet? And my family says that I have no life? Big scam got onto one of the flirt websites and it wont allow you type in your email address in the message. The girls keep asking for your email address even though they know you cant type it in. I assume you have to subscribe in some way to allow email typos but never got that far

‘ll second what others wrote here. Got suckered into paying for a month of farce and fraud, cancelled after 10-days and had to be an SOB with the operator who tried to trick me into an alternate subscription with a cleverly-scripted shell game.

From the start I was as incessantly inundated with “promoted live models” (webcam hookers) and a host of other scammers that can’t be blocked, baiting you to other related sites And from supposedy real members, I got only chat, chat, chat, and chatter — lots of explicit sex-chat, but no action whatsoever. The strange, disjointed conversations rarely made sense, as if by a bot juggling multiple chat threads: answers were canned or answered only by leading questions. It seems “members” only wanted to talk about sex in explicit detail, which was okay at first but turned a little weird. They’ll tell you how they love to deep-throat and swallow, enjoy anal, like rough treatment, hair-pulling, bondage, etc., but after a long steamy “chat” (I’ve come to hate that word), they’re just too chicken to meet for coffee. They want to get to know you better, so you try to steer the conversation to normal get-acquainted topics, things other than sex, they seem to lose interest and just drop out. Or they’re evasive about what part of town they live in. Some have profiles from Chicago, Arizona and Detroit, Maine; and three women in late fifties, early sixties said they wanted to settle down and have kids some day, obviously ignorant of their own profile info.

Flirt.com is a scam from top to bottom, and it’s affiliated with identical sites sharing the same roster of sex-chat bots, like Momsgetnaughty andany others. Just stay away. A TOTAL SCAM, aside from the fake contacts, if you sign up for their 3 day trial watch out. Even if you cancel the rebilling they’ll bill you anyway. To cancel you have to jump through so many hoops till eventually you find you have to ring their Customer Service operator who’ll try to sell you another membership and neglect to tell you that they also signed you up for a XXX VOD service which they bill you for separately. THEY ARE SCAMMERS avoid them like the plague and never give them your Card details! This site is a COMPLETE waste of money. I have been on there a few weeks and have yet to converse with a real human being or a person who is not a scammer pretending to be living in my area. It should be avoided like the plague. I only just signed up for this flirt.com, looking to chat to a genuine girl, I was on the site for one day, I actually had a good conversation with a girl, on there but then the site, ask me to re pay for it again. Doesn’t make any sense. I even called them up. They Said it was a technical error, they would sort it. But they haven’t, I stopped my subscription on the mobile, cause I don’t want to get recharged for another £6, I sent them an email. For a response, Im not calling them up again. What a waste. actually thought, this was a good site, doesn’t give a good impression when you pay, put me off. My cards doesn’t work, won’t except it. Only mobile. Something abit odd. Good thing my card didn’t work. If this is the case. In the online dating world if it’s appears to good to be true, then you can almost certainly gaurentee it is. If you have stunning model looking girls on dating sites offering quick hookups then it’s obviously a scam. It’s organised cyber crime playing on the urges of people. As far as I’m concerned every quick hookup site on the Internet with a monthly cost is a complete scam. Fellas. Boys. Read this carefully. Does that sound familiar? It’s what is written in bold letters right above the I AGREE button. It refers to the terms and conditions. By clicking that green button you have fallen into the trap. Most guys are filling out the membership form with one hand and their dick in the other. That’s what these company’s bank on. Who’s got time to read pages and pages of tiny, boring print when there’s all these hot chicks wanting to connect with me?
My first question; since when do hot, sexy pornstar lookalikes message a guy first?
Second; did you notice how keen they were for you to get that membership?
It clearly states in the Terms and conditions that from time to time the company may use online ‘cupids’ or ‘ambassadors’ to stimulate conversation and encourage member participation to enhance their online experience. These ‘cupids’ are fictitious and do not represent a real person. St no stage willl a physical meeting occur. You agree and accept these artificial profiles as nothing more than fantasy.
Or something along those lines.
So gentleman, you’ve been cleverly had. Suck it up buttercups I signed up for flirthut and it won’t let me sign in to my page. Even had my page posted as over of their new members with my pic and everything but won’t let me sign in. Just keeps telling me my own information already exists. No censored! When I clicked on MY page it just kept telling me I need to sign in first to do anything. Left a message under the contact us portion but have yet to get a response. I truly believe that flirt for 1 is nothing but a scam! I paid for a 6 month subscription unfortunately. 70$ ill never get back. For a bunch of fake girls trying to get you to sign up to a “prove your identity web site” which is just a phishing site trying to get your credit card info. Or cam girls in which you half to buy coins. So lame. Definitely NOT a dating or hook up site. DONT BE FOOLED. There playing off the emotions of desperate men looking for some attention. Instead they just take your money. Flirt is operated by criminals in Ghana, Africa & they use criminals in India too. They start by sending you unsolicited emails asking if you’re single then expect you to follow the link to their rip-off site where they expect your credit card details. Once you give them the details they keep charging your card even after your profile has been cancelled. The profiles aren’t really & they try to get your Facebook info as well so they can attempt to reach your friends & rip them off.
I was lucky enough to be warned about them before I fell into the trap but I know someone who had to cancel their card & change their bank account number to avoid them repeatedly charging the account.
We all know a massive number of indians & Africans are criminals & are out to rip people off. They try to cover airline tickets & boat rides with people smugglers & visas just to enter respectable countries to rip their citizens off also.
If you get anywhere with any dating website it definitely won’t be with flirt.com & that’s certain.
Just read the pages of people saying the same thing as me in this forum right here. It took me an hour to realize it was a fake site. Half said in their profile they were from Deer Creek MN. lol that town has a population of 325. The pictures of the women and where they say they are from are all totally phony.I am convinced there are no real women on there.
If you have a look at the profiles of 99 % of them u will see that the same parts of the profiles are filled out and nothing else.
The only parts that are filled in on most of them is
Body type, hair colour, eye colour, orientation, marital status, ethnic origin and a couple of others. They want to know all about you when you chat but give virtually nothing away about themselves. If you ask them a question they either ignore it or send back something that makes no sense. Save your money. Its a ripoff. Does anyone know where they get the pictures of women on flirt.com. I think most are fake and maybe a few are real. Just curious because couldn’t they get sued for using someone’s photo without permission. I signed up and paid for one month on this site but couldn’t get anywhere with these women. They wouldn’t answer questions directly they would only redirect you to other questions.The sign up process was simple to get through and I put in info about me to make my profile a little more detailed. It never did ask me for payment information and I utilized the options on the site without paying. It did offer the option to pay from 2.99 to 29.99 for more views or something but I didn’t bother.
I received a message from someone fairly quickly. Someone within 100 miles of me. And I replied to his message. However, after an hour went by, I checked the message thread and noticed that my message did not go through. I tried messaging him again, multiple times and other people as well, but to no avail. I am not sure why none of my messages will send but I find the sight completely pointless for me to use if I can’t reply to anyone. I tried contacting the administrator but, so far, no response. I suppose I’m back to my Google searches to find a better website to use because meeting people in person nowadays is so unlikely. Lol. Yup. Couple days ago I got kinda drunk and sad and wanted to try this site. Bought 1 month and now I can’t deactivate even thou ive tried so many times. Cant get my card off and now it won’t even work on anything else. this website is 100% ripoff.too many “promoted models” interfering with your use. Always trying to get you to watch them on cam. I got on this site because I want to hook up with someone, not sit there all day watching useless cam shows! the women that are not “promotional” are all fakes. As soon as you get to talking with them, all of a sudden they all say the same thing! “gotta go now”. yet they are still online. there should be laws against sites like this. don’t waste your money here. And also when I signed up, they already had a box checmarked for “premium dating” women with webcams! they charged my account $29.95 for this feature! when you call a number to complain, you get someone from India who can’t understand what you are saying, and you can’t understand them!This site is the BIGGEST SCAM ever.. Your not talking to real people… READ THE FINE PRINT.. There job is to keep you over your time so they can rebill you up to $40.00 dollars.. It say Trail period .99 cents.. But read the contract it allows them to charge you again if you don’t cancel.. And they try to make that hard also.. After you do EVERYTHING to delete you account ONLINE.. Then you have to call them by phone.. They will send you a code then you have to sign in again and go through the process again this time adding the code..
When you call to cancel your account they will do all in their power to tell you about a 7 day free period at another site.. This is to keep you on the site you signed up for the time needed to bill you at the higher rate..
Don’t take my word for it.. Try to cancel your account..
Also they tell you.. IF you sign back in for any reason your account is automatically renewed.. Which now means without your knowledge they will start billing you again.. TRUST me they figured out one thing.. NO ONE READS THE FINE PRINT!!!!!!!! I had to fight with the guy to cancel EVERYTHING.. He tried and tried and I asked him.. What do you NOT UNDERDTAND ABOUT THE WORD “CANCEL”..
Take this as a true warning before lesson.. It a scam.. OH>> this is how I figured it out.. Notice all the people that pop up in your area.. Ask them what part of the town they live in.. They never have a answer because they are all overseas running this scam..
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I just logged…paid membership..even the chatter upgrade… funny thing that the women chat with you for a day & say would like to chat with you again as you seem like a guy i would meet..so u see them online the next day but they dont reply & not even read your messages ..so a week later there is still heaps of messages or even BOTs posing as women ,small details on some sites say they use digital thespians .in other words BOTs this site it is a practice to know how to talk to a girl cold or warm prospect out of this site !
More than 3x i got the same answer from a different girl strange !!!
Look like a PC AUTO ANSWER AND PEOPLE PAID TO TYPE AN ANSWER.
NO GIRL WANT TO DATE HERE !
SATAN IS A LIAR !!! FRAUDULENT FROM SOUP TO NUTS. SIMPLE TESTS SHOW THAT ALL PROFILES ARE FRAUDULENT AS ARE ALL MESSAGES FROM THEM. THEY WILL INVENT VERY IMAGINATIVE, ENDLESS AND ABSOLUTELY UNTRUTHFUL EXCUSES TO CHARGE YOU FOR A MONTH AFTER THEY HAVE ALREADY CONFIRMED YOUR CANCELLATION OF RECURRING CHARGES IN WRITING. YOU WILL HAVE TO GET ANOTHER CHARGE CARD. BY NO MEANS, DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT GIVING THEM CHECKING ACCOUNT INFORMATION. THEY WILL NO DOUBT SPREAD IT AROUND TO ALL THE OTHER SITES THEY OWN AND HAVE CONTRACTED WITH FOR DISTRIBUTION OF YOUR PROFILE INFORMATION. BASED IN BRITISH VIRGIN ISLANDS WHICH LETS THEM GET AWAY WITH ALL THIS S**T. WOULD FILE MAIL FRAUD CHARGES IF IN US. ONE COULD ALWAYS, HOWEVER, CATCH A PLANE AND GO LOADED FOR BEAR … BUT ILL GET OVER IT. EVIL, SATANIC, UNPRINCIPLED BOTH IN PREYING ON HUMAN LONLINESS AND IN NATURE OF “BUSINESS” PRACTICES. AT LEAST ADULTFRIENDFINDER DELIVERS THE GOODS. EASIER TO GET LAID THERE THAN SELL A CAR. Flirt is a scam and the people you deal with are from a foreign country
where you cannot understand what they are saying.
your bank account will always get hit with unauthorized charges
that you never signed up for.for instance, the first two times I was hit
with an EXTRA $29.00 and then an extra $19.99 for being able to watch
PROMOTIONAL models on webcams! Im on this site to find a real person
to date! You can watch thousands of sex videos for free on XHAMPSTER
or YOU PORN.Twice I had to cancel my debit cards and get new ones issued
with new account numbers. A real pain because all my accounts had to be changed too!
I got hundreds of girls from foreign countries and non stop promotional models always
trying to horn in on your time! plus commercials popping up all the time. Stay away from this
site. it is dangerous to your bank account. You have been warned. I have used this site for a few months. They have a number of strange and probably dodgy tactics. There are bogus profiles I am guessing as I received likes/winks from women who didn’t respond to my replies(I’m not Daniel Craig but NO responses). Messages arrive from women entitled ‘private’ but they are pro-forma from the website’s list of messages and they go out to everyone. Sometimes you get the same message from several women at once, must be the website that does that.. so you get the idea that someone is interested but they’re not..that’s a cute feature! You get loads of messages from women half your age which are bogus or sex professionals. Finally when I stopped my membership having had no genuine interest for s good while I suddenly was inundated with messages … which I think is flirt.com’s way of trying to lure you back. I think there are genuine profiles on the flirt.com but it’s difficult to pick them out amidst all the bull£&@”! Stay Away all fake accounts even ADMIN don’t give a *censored* they’re in on it whenever I report a fake account with one word answer in English that’s clearly not from a native speaking American or Brit ‘hey guy’ when you ask them where they’re from the just day New York or London when you ask them what area of New York or London or part they say the central area then a ligtning request to go to a cam site

‘maria44lee has safely passed through our support service verification. You can safely communicate with this person. Get into contact now!’ This is a site full of pictures of all varities taken from the web. I dont believe the people whos pictures are used even know. The msgs are from employees of site. Go ahead and ask a direct question…..I called 5 girls sluts and the response was “ok thank you, what is your favorite color???????? Was on it for a few months. Struggled to cancel account, so resorted to threats and alot of swearing (good old fashioned Anglo-Saxon) THAT got their attention. Supposedly from Luxembourg. The obviously took offence to my colourful language or as they put it ‘my foul abusive lexic’. Made out if I contacted them like that again they’d report so I told them to ‘go away you lady parts’ nothing happened! As for the women I think some are genuine 3 are on my FB page 1 I actually met another one I spoke on the phone for awhile and the other admitted she was a 19year old student getting paid to lead people on. Don’t trust any of these sites now amazing how some said they lived in my town, where everyone knows everyone yet I’d never seen them. I joined “Flirt” the other day. I YES it is a scam. Get winks from all over the United States and Romania. All they do is want to sell you Videos of them playing with their self’s. I think the “Messages” from local women are computer ran. You start asking local questions where they are from and you get a “computer generated” answer back. Even they say AJ to Phx is only 5 miles away. I GOT SCAMED When unsubscribing from one of these websites kindly contact the financial institution associated with the card you are using and inform them there are to be no charges from the company you are no longer using under any circumstance. This way you are able avoid the charges altogether. All the dating sites have these same types of scammers. Pof is the only one that has actual real girls wanting to meet real guys and not just to get money out of them. However pof has their good amount of scammers also. This site is the only site that you don’t have to pay money to respond to its users so I would stick with it. I’ve met plenty of girls off of the pof site. It’s is getting a little worse though. You have to know how to weed out the fakes. If you’re a big fat ugly guy and this horny little hot 23 year old girl is saying she wants to meet. C”mom man. It’s not gonna happen. All I can say to all the guys are is find someone who is in your league and don’t pay money for dating sites. They are censored and these little hot pieces of ass will use you guys to get money. Find a file in your own neighborhood or go to real relationship sites like match and those types. Date a girl first. Then try to get that ass. Not many girls hand it out for free nowadays. I take them to McDonald’s. That’s about all the money they’ll get out of me. And if you do decide to stay on these site. Your first message should be. Hey give me your number and we will text. If they say no then it’s probably bull. I can get about 20 numbers a day off of pof. I weed them out that way. Also within the first two days of talking to them they will. Will will ask you for money for something or tell you a sad story about their kids dying or some crap like that. Get rid of their numbers if they do this. They are doing the same thing to many other guys and I promise you this. There are a lot of dumbasses that are sending these girls money. Be a player. Don’t be played. Good luck fellas and stay away from the gold diggers. YES. Flirt.com is TOTALLY FAKE!
I set up a profile. Did not pay for the membership.
I have multiple messages of the following:
“What a pleasant surprise! I’m happy to get your like cos you’re magic.. Really you are single?”
“Boo! You’re so nice, wanna know what I like in you?”
“He, do I know you from somewhere? You look so familiar. Like this!”
“Awww, you liked me! I like you too, you look so tender and nice, bet you have a dark side, ya!? ”
“Saw your like and oh gosh you’re amazing! What do you want for breakfast?”
“Hi you  I saw you like me, am I your type?”
“Really like you too! Let’s see what we have in common. Do you like spicy food?”
“What a cutie  can I show my mutual like for real? Will find some cozy place and talk!”

The internet dating sites are just as money hungry as everyone else.
Greedy. Malicious. Self-righteous.
Welcome to reality of the world we live in.
And it’s just going to get worse.
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It is without a doubt a complete scam. Even when I called them on it, it was like a computer was responding to me. They double charged me without my permission, good thing a used a prepaid debit that I don’t plan on putting any more money on. I don’t see how they get away with. I haven’t had a serious conversation with one real girl yet, all responses are canned and out of context. I though there were federal laws against fraud, which is exactly what the site is

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